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Social Confidence Boot Camp

Apr 5, 2010 conference, laidoffcamp, sem, seo, social media

Social Confidence Boot Camp
Matt Clower

• Think positively – the mind set going into any situation is key.
• Speak positive about what you’re doing and who you are.
• Embrace what is wonderful about you and connect with other people.
• Reinforce the good ideas, share what is awesome about you.
• Smile
• Accept compliments gracefully, do not shrug it off.
• Really insecure people approach others with a negative outcome, they expect the worst and socialize with people anxiously. Self assured people expect positive results. If you go into it expecting positive results, it’ll happen.
• Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice say in the back of your head when you go into a conversation you’re not comfortable with. What makes you ashamed of yourself.
• Matt suggests to write them down on cards, give them names, and address them. If you write them it brings it into the “real” and it’s something you can think through the truth about it, and it makes it tangible.
• Identify what makes you feel inferior and solve what you can and get over what you can’t.
• Focus on your successes instead. Focus on where you excel.
• Imagine you becoming what you imagine yourself to be.
• Remember, you are not your job.
• Be thankful. Take time to reflect on where you came from.
• Preparation – new client, new job situation.
• Learning the culture, and the style of who you’ll be interviewing with can be a big deal. It can change your mind set when you go into it. Identify things that the company, or that person, loves and enjoys. You want to make sure that you’re on the same visual communication as the people you’re meeting.
• Stalk where you’re going before you go
• Schedule your social life.
• Be a question asker
• See how long you can keep people going about their hobbies/passions. They’ll do all the talking
• No questions are dumb, just the ones never asked. They love it when you ask questions… Just, don’t talk too much.
• Think about the things you wished you knew at your old job, and ask them during your interview.
• But… you don’t have to change. Be who you really are. Love who you are, and you’ll know where you fit.
• It’s not about you. It’s about the company and what is it that you can bring to them.
• If you’re nervous about getting out there start with a group you’re comfortable with.
• Join toastmasters.com – it helps you with public speaking to large groups of people, and learning to listen to yourself. It’s not the perfect thing for everyone, but it’s great to join fr the experience.
• In comparision to other cities Phoenix is like an entrepreneurial community vs establishment